Are all woman the same ? Are they all as physcologically damaging.?

No. All women are not psychologically damaging but some can be. So can some men in much the same way. Take more care in choosing a partner next time. I've found that a lot of men are too much in a rush to find someone when they are single and tend to end up with exactly the same type of woman over and over again because they keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Maybe you are meeting them at the wrong place. If you decide to stay with this woman, counseling may help also. They can point out a lot of things you never even considered in regard to yourself, women, and relationships.